Making Work Werk: A Guide to Making Your Work Bestie's Return to Work Easier

Supporting Your Bestie as They Transition Back to Work

We know you’re excited to have your work bestie back from maternity or paternity leave—it just wasn’t the same without them! Returning to work after a break—whether due to parental leave, personal reasons, or even a long vacation—can be an overwhelming experience. As their best friend, your support can make a world of difference during this transition. Here are some empathetic ways to help your friend navigate this new chapter while reminding them that they’re not alone.

1. The Golden Rule

First and foremost, it’s important to validate their feelings. Returning to work can stir up a mix of excitement, anxiety, and uncertainty. It’s especially important to recognize that many returning parents are often sleep-deprived, which can amplify these emotions. Let them know it’s completely normal to feel this way and that you’re there to listen if they want to share their thoughts.

This means actively listening when they share their thoughts, offering encouragement when they’re feeling overwhelmed, and celebrating their achievements, no matter how small. By doing so, you create a safe space for your bestie to express themselves, knowing they have someone who truly understands and cares about their well-being."

2. Practical Work Magic

Consider practical ways you can help. Whether it’s assisting with their morning routine, offering to pick up lunch, or helping them plan their first week back, small gestures can alleviate some stress. A little organization and a well placed cup of coffee can go a long way in making the transition smoother.

Let’s not forget that new dads returning to work deserve support too! Just like new moms, they’re adjusting to a big life change and balancing new responsibilities at home with their work commitments. A little encouragement, some understanding, and a few thoughtful gestures can make a big difference. Whether it’s helping them ease back into their workload or just checking in to see how they’re doing, your support can mean a lot as they settle into this exciting new chapter.

3. Friendship Is Strong Medicine

Remind them of their strengths and why they’re valued at work. A simple text or a note can boost their confidence and reassure them that they’re capable of handling the challenges ahead. Celebrate their achievements, both big and small, as they reintegrate into the workplace.

Many moms are navigating the added challenges of breast pumps and privacy, often managing their schedules around pumping sessions. Being an advocate for them, whether it’s helping reserve a private space or simply showing understanding, can be a huge relief and make a world of difference.

4. “Grown-Ups Only” Vibes

Being an adult friend is a gift to new parents. The world of new parenthood is incredibly sweet, but it can also feel isolating. You and the work you share have never been more important. While your friend may want to talk about the baby a lot at first, gently nudging conversations towards favorite TV shows, music, or even office gossip can help normalize the return to everyday life. It reminds them that they’re still part of the team and the world outside of parenthood.

5. Finding Team Balance Again

While it’s important to be empathetic, it’s equally vital to maintain balance. Encourage them to communicate their needs, but also remind them to be considerate of your feelings. Few people like to be treated as if they’re made of glass; it’s perfectly okay to ask for that report that’s due or to check in on deadlines. Clear communication fosters understanding and strengthens your working relationship.

6. It’s The Little Things

Encourage them to personalize their workspace to make it feel more welcoming. A fun addition could be a “Work Mama 9to5” themed onesie on their desk. This playful touch can symbolize your support and serve as a reminder that while things may have changed, your friendship—and their ability to adapt—remains strong.

7. Just Look at the Damn Pictures

Taking a few moments to admire the new baby pictures—even if it starts to feel a bit repetitive—can mean the world to a new parent! We know it might even get a little annoying after the tenth photo, but remember: this is your work bestie’s whole heart you’re admiring. Each picture, each little story, holds so much meaning for them. Showing genuine excitement and asking about the baby’s name, first smiles, or favorite quirks lets them share a piece of their joy. It can also help them feel more connected and appreciated at work as they transition between the demands of parenting and their professional role. Plus, those adorable baby photos are bound to bring some smiles and brighten up the day for everyone!

8. Keep An Eye Out For Postpartum Depression

Postpartum symptoms can follow new parents into the workplace, even if they look different from what we might expect. For some, it’s ongoing fatigue, making even simple tasks feel like a mountain to climb. Others might experience difficulty concentrating or memory issues, often called 'mom brain' or 'dad brain,' which can affect focus and productivity. Mood swings, anxiety, or unexpected irritability can also be signs, as the adjustment to balancing work and new parenthood brings both physical and emotional demands. Some may withdraw socially or seem more sensitive than usual, as they’re juggling this new phase.

As their work bestie, you’re in a unique position; you might actually be seeing them for more cumulative hours each week than their own family. This means your observations and support are extra meaningful. Recognizing these signs and offering a bit of patience, empathy, and encouragement can help ease their transition, making them feel seen, valued, and supported in this new chapter.

Conclusion

Supporting your bestie as they transition back to work is all about empathy and understanding. While it may feel stressful at first, remind them that this change can lead to exciting new opportunities. With your support—and a little bit of fun, like a cheerful onesie on their desk—they’ll find their groove in no time. Here’s to new beginnings and the joy of having your friend back at work!