Pregnancy is a life-changing experience, full of excitement, challenges, and plenty of emotions. For someone navigating this journey, having a strong support system is invaluable. If your friend is expecting, there are many ways you can show your support and be there for them during this special time. Whether it’s their first pregnancy or not, here’s how you can be the friend they need.

1. Listen Without Judgment

Pregnancy comes with a whirlwind of emotions—some days are joyful, others may be overwhelming. The best way to support your friend is by being a listening ear. Encourage them to talk about their feelings, concerns, or excitement, without offering unsolicited advice. Sometimes, they just need to vent or express how they’re feeling without anyone trying to “fix” things.

Tip: Simply saying, “I’m here if you need to talk,” can be a comforting reminder that they have someone in their corner.

2. Help with Practical Support

During pregnancy, especially in the later stages, it can become physically exhausting. Offering practical help like running errands, picking up groceries, or cooking a meal can make a world of difference. Small acts of kindness show that you understand their physical limits and are willing to help out.

Tip: Don’t wait for them to ask—offer specific help, such as “I can stop by and help fold baby clothes on Saturday if you need.”

3. Respect Their Choices

Every pregnancy journey is different, and your friend may make choices that differ from what you’d expect—whether it's about birth plans, baby names, or parenting styles. The best way to be supportive is to respect their decisions. If they’re following a certain diet or avoiding certain activities, be mindful of that, even if it’s different from what you know.

Tip: Avoid offering comparisons or stories about other pregnancies unless they ask. Focus on what they want and need for their unique experience.

4. Celebrate the Milestones

Pregnancy is filled with exciting moments—from the first ultrasound to gender reveals to baby showers. Celebrate these moments with your friend! Whether it’s a simple congratulatory message or attending a baby shower, acknowledging their milestones helps them feel supported.

Tip: Consider sending small, thoughtful gifts like maternity care items, or a gift from your favorite baby shop (like a cute onesie from Cheerable Creations!). It’s the little things that can brighten their day.

5. Be Mindful of Your Words

Pregnant women often hear unsolicited advice or comments about their bodies. While your intentions may be good, phrases like “Are you sure you should be eating that?” or “Wow, you’re getting big!” can be hurtful. It’s important to be mindful of your words, choosing encouragement and positivity instead.

Tip: Compliment their strength and resilience, and offer kind words like, “You’re doing great!”

6. Friendship Is a Two-Way Street

While it’s wonderful to be there for your pregnant friend, it’s important to remember that friendship goes both ways. Even during pregnancy, your friend still cares about your well-being, so don’t hesitate to share your own life updates, emotions, or challenges. It's easy to feel like you should avoid burdening them, but chances are they’ll appreciate the sense of normalcy in your friendship.

Tip: Be open about your own needs and ask for support when you need it. Sometimes, even just having a chat about your own day can help them feel connected to you, beyond the pregnancy focus.

7. Stay Connected After the Baby Arrives

The support doesn’t stop when the baby is born. The transition to motherhood can be overwhelming, and new moms often need extra help adjusting to their new role. Offering support during the postpartum period—whether it’s by helping with meals, babysitting, or simply checking in—can help your friend feel less isolated and more empowered.

Tip: Ask how they’re feeling, not just about the baby. They’ll appreciate your care for both their emotional and physical well-being.

Final Thoughts

Being a supportive friend during pregnancy means showing up in ways that make a real difference, from listening without judgment to helping out practically and celebrating the little moments. Remember, friendship is a two-way street. While you’re supporting your friend through their pregnancy, don’t forget to share your own needs and ask for their support too. This will strengthen your bond and create a balanced relationship, which is exactly what a true friendship is all about.

With patience, empathy, and kindness, you’ll help make this journey a little smoother for your friend—and feel just as supported along the way.

A guide to supporting your bestie through a pregnancy